BROADWOOD couple Lize and Wilbur Hayward, who are celebrating 25 years of marriage, said they always tried to resolve their differences with openness and communication.
Lize (nee Van der Vyver) said she was staying with a friend in Central in 1987 when Wilbur and his friend had popped in for coffee – and the rest was history. “It evolved into a night-through ‘jol’ until the early hours of the morning,” Lize said, adding that the evening included swimming at McArthur Pools and a braai.
“We connected well and have been friends ever since,” said Clear Communications owner Lize, who is a business communications specialist, while Wilbur owns engineering company Drieklofies Trust. The pair married on November 24 1990 at Holy Trinity Anglican Church in Central and held their reception at the Edward Hotel, which has since closed.
“It was over too quickly, but it was a wonderfully exciting day, never to be forgotten,” Wilbur said. The couple have two children, Mia, 18, and Will, 15. They celebrated their wedding anniversary at De Kelder restaurant at the Marine Hotel, where they had their honeymoon 25 years ago.
Instead of buying gifts for each other, the couple bought a Carrol Boyes piece. “We bought a silver memento to put in our house as a symbol of the 25 years,” Lize said. Lize said she loved the fact that her husband was so different from her. She said he was a more relaxed, warm and outgoing person, while she was a bit more serious and well-organised.
“He helps me to relax and bring ‘d i s o rd e r ’ in my life and I complement him by bringing more ‘o rd e r ’ into his life,” Lize said. Wilbur said he loved the fact that his wife was fun-loving and that they had shared many adventures such as hiking, backpacking overseas and having children together.
“She brings balance into my life in many areas such as organising and planning things that I do not like to do,” Wilbur said. Lize said she believed it was important to spend quality time together and to have healthy discussions. “We put one evening a week aside for ourselves, which we call marriage-time.” They also believed it was important to serve their Creator together as a couple, and as a family.